LOVE AND SEX ADVICE FROM REVOLVER’S HOTTEST PHOTO DIRECTOR (WARNING: EXPLICIT CONTENT)

As the Revolver Photo Director and proud owner of a vagina, I feel more than qualified to offer up honest, raw, and unadulterated advice regarding all things related to sex, the female body, and relationships. So, all you metalhead freaks out there, please email me your most dire, dirty, sick, and twisted questions about women and the way we work, from our emotional hearts to our even more complicated parts. Girls are also welcome to fire off some questions; I’m sure the guys reading my blog would love to hear what’s on your mind as well. Email me at revolvher@gmail.com

Dear RevolvHer,
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a while now and I’ve never been more in love. I can see us being together until our teeth and hair start falling out and we’re no longer able to headbang. But right now, I'm wondering if it’s time to take the next step in the relationship. No, I’m not talking about tying the knot or moving in together... I’m talking about anal sex. I’ve had a few boyfriends before, but I’ve never felt ready to try it. And I’m still not sure if I am ready. I guess my question is, how do you know it’s the right time for something like this? And it seems like it could be, I don’t know, messy? Painful? Is there anything a girl should do to prepare herself hygiene-wise or comfort-wise so when the moment comes, it’s not ruined prematurely? Thanks, you're the best!
Butt Love

In today’s highly over-pornified universe in which the butt lovin’ has been completely normalized, it isn’t unusual for young women to feel obliged to offer up their virgin asses at some point in their long term romantic relationships. I don’t feel that anal sex is something that a man should feel entitled to in a relationship, but I fully endorse a woman trying it out if she is curious or lusty to pop her butt cherry. I’m not exactly sure how you know if you are ready to offer yours up or not, Butt Love, but if you find the idea of anal sex erotic, and if you have had some type of stimulation in that region that has made you quiver, you might be on your way! Since you seem to be eager for some tips, I will most definitely oblige, because preparation is your friend when it comes to the asshole!

First off, the key to a successful anal sex session is loads of good lube and condoms. My favorite girly store for all things adult is Babeland; they have a link on their site all about the various lubes and safe sex options that are out there and you can order up your toys and lube discreetly and in bulk!

Once you have this area covered (pun intended), the next step is to make sure your man will be tender and careful with your rosebud. Since you love him, I’m sure he is swell and knows what he is doing in the sack! He should go slowly and go small (toy or finger) at first to get you going and help get you accustomed to the feeling. He can then start easing his cock in gently one little inch at a time. (It is about this time that you will be wishing he had a small member!) You should make sure that you are as relaxed as possible, because tensing up will only make things painful for both of you. Rubbing your clitoris with your hand or a vibrator will help get you into the voyage.

When it comes to the issue of cleanliness during the act, well, that is something you should just take as part of the whole experience. There is no foolproof way beyond doing an enema prior to anal sex that will guarantee a perfectly clean outcome. If your lover man is willing to stick his dick in your ass, he has to be willing to accept any and all of the consequences of his actions! Not to get too graphic, but it is advisable to have a good clean bowel movement prior to engaging in anal sex. Remember—shit happens, and he should be wearing a condom anyway. This is the main reason why it’s important to have anal sex with someone you feel completely comfortable with, so that you won’t get all wigged out if something embarrassing happens or if you end up wanting him to stop. You need to feel completely safe telling him to “get the fuck out of my ass” at any point.

The one major rule of thumb when engaging in anal sex is never go from anus to vagina without first washing – that is how bacteria gets spread and infections happen. For more good fun tips try this link, analsexyes.com/top5.shtml.

Most of all, Butt Love, make sure that you are doing this because you want to do it, not because you feel that it is what is expected of you. Trust me, if he is a good man, he will be totally enamored with your pussy and won’t even notice that you avoided giving up that ass!
xxx

RevolvHer