As the Revolver Photo Director and proud owner of a vagina, I feel more than qualified to offer up honest, raw, and unadulterated advice regarding all things related to sex, the female body, and relationships. So, all you metalhead freaks out there, please email me your most dire, dirty, sick, and twisted questions about women and the way we work, from our emotional hearts to our even more complicated parts. Girls are also welcome to fire off some questions; I’m sure the guys reading my blog would love to hear what’s on your mind as well. Email me at revolvher@gmail.com
Dear RevolvHer,
My girlfriend cries sometimes after we have sex. Like right after she comes. She gets all weepy and when I ask her what’s wrong she says, “Nothing, sex just makes me emotional”. It especially happens after we do it doggy style. I am just wondering, since you seem to know about women stuff, does this mean that something bad happened to her sexually in the past? Or is she lying about something being wrong? The whole thing kinda ruins the mood.
Alex
Hey Alex,
I love getting emails like this from guys, because I get to see how all the crazy shit that we women do in the sack can be misconstrued. I have definitely welled up with tears after a great orgasm, especially when I am deeply in love with the guy I am fucking. I usually let my man know that it is his gorgeous cock that brought on my torrent of tears and not something more cryptic, in order to avoid sending him running for the hills, so I can see how your girlfriend’s lack of information might have you a bit freaked. There are multiple reasons why a woman might cry after sex. I am not inside your gal’s head, so I can’t rule out the worst-case scenarios, but I can help break down the various biological and emotional reasons why this could be totally normal and might not be anything to get all wiggy about.
When women have an orgasm, they release hormones that can trigger various emotional highs and lows, from tears to elation. As we all know, hormones are really powerful chemicals, and when they surge through the body they can create rapid-fire effects, like instant PMS directly after a beautiful orgasm, for example. Hopefully, if you have spent some time with a PMS’ing woman, you can understand why that onslaught of post-orgasmic hormonal raging could inspire some major emoting.
A good post-coital cry can also be the result of the release of pent-up tension that comes from a really strong full-body orgasm. A sexual climax is one of the best ways to release both physical and emotional stress. Sometimes it can be such a massive physical release that your girl can end up in a crumpled ball of tears, clutching onto your chest for dear life. You should feel very proud of yourself if you can rock her to the core like this and turn her into a full-on basket case with your sweet lovin’. In fact, this should always be your goal. For some tips, see my previous RevolvHer advice blogs on G-Spot stimulation!
If it actually is the worst-case scenario, that something terrible did happen in your girlfriend’s sexual past and the sex you are having now is triggering bad associations for her and causing her to cry, then it is really up to her to be honest with you—and with herself—if she ever truly wants to enjoy real intimacy in your relationship. But for now, just try to have faith that what she has told you is the truth; that nothing is wrong, and sex just makes her emotional. Her tears are a perfectly normal reaction to the sweet pounding you are giving her, so obviously you should just keep laying that rock-hard pipe!
xxx
RevolvHer
