LOVE AND SEX ADVICE FROM REVOLVER’S HOTTEST SEX ADVICE BLOGGER (WARNING: EXPLICIT CONTENT)

As a proud owner of a vagina and daughter of a gynecologist, I feel more than qualified to offer up honest, raw, and unadulterated advice regarding all things related to sex, the human body, and relationships. So, all you metalhead freaks out there, please email me your most dire, dirty, sick, and twisted questions about women and the way we work, from our emotional hearts to our even more complicated parts. Email me at RevolvHer@gmail.com.


RevolvHer,
I am a first time writer [to any sort of column or publication]. I am constantly advising my friends and coworkers in many areas, but I never seem to have the answers to my own situations. Everyone else's problems seem so clear cut, but my own situation is an enigma to me. So here I am with a huge conundrum.

Please, help! I don't want to grow feelings of resentment towards her over this. I am very respectful to her; I do a lot of housework and cooking, as well as maintaining a full-time job. We're financially stable (I make over $100,000 per year) and we have no real stresses in our life. I let her try different hobbies that she has interests in, and I pay her tuition to get her MBA. I do this because I want her to be happy and, ultimately, the both of us to be happy. But I'm not sure what’s going on with her. Will this pass?
Confused but Concerned!
Cheers!

Dear Confused but Concerned,
Your lengthy letter to me should be a hint that you are, in fact, already resentful of your girlfriend. So there is no chance that I can make you not feel that emotion with my words. I can, however, validate what you are feeling and shine a light on what you probably already know deep down inside your horny soul.

Sex is part of the bargain when you sign up to be in a relationship. Sure, sometimes there is less sex then you want at a given time, but it is a cause for concern if your partner shows no interest in boning you and no fear that it will bum you out. If she cares about you being happy and having your needs met, she should at least acknowledge that there is a problem and do something to try and work through whatever it is that is keeping her from riding your dick with passion and glee. She cannot expect you to continue over extending yourself with romantic gestures, going down on her, and fulfilling her hopes/dreams financially and otherwise, while not even attempting to appease your basic man urges.

I hate to be the one to tell you that she might, in fact, be using you for a free ride to her MBA, a clean house, food on the table every night. Don’t get me wrong: If she has a legitimate physical or psychological reason for her lack of interest in sex, then by all means, hang in there and hold her hand through the bad patch. But if she has made no gesture to try and fix the problem beyond buying some lube, then you might just need to move on and find yourself a partner who understands what it takes to maintain a healthy relationship with a virile man.

I know as well as anyone how difficult it is to leave someone you love because of something that you see as totally fixable and something that was once such a great aspect of your relationship. But you deserve to have reciprocal love and lust. You at least owe it to yourself and the relationship to sit down with your partner and tell her that you are unhappy and that you are growing resentful. Let her know that she is confusing you and making you doubt the relationship. See how she reacts to hearing that you are one foot out the door. Hopefully, it is with open arms—and legs!
xxx
RevolvHer