LOVE AND SEX ADVICE FROM REVOLVER’S HOTTEST SEX ADVICE BLOGGER (WARNING: EXPLICIT CONTENT)

As a proud owner of a vagina and daughter of a gynecologist, I feel more than qualified to offer up honest, raw, and unadulterated advice regarding all things related to sex, the human body, and relationships. So, all you metalhead freaks out there, please email me your most dire, dirty, sick, and twisted questions about women and the way we work, from our emotional hearts to our even more complicated parts. Email me at RevolvHer@gmail.com.

Dear RevolvHER,
I've been dating my girlfriend for about six months. I’m a metalhead, and she’s more of a goth chick, which I think is a very good combination. Our sex life has been very good up until now...at least I thought so. But then recently she has been hinting about introducing toys—dildos, vibrators, and such—into the bedroom. I just can’t help but feel a little insecure because of this. I’ve never used toys with any of my previous girlfriends (well, I’ve only really had one other) and I mean, shouldn’t I be enough? Does this mean that I haven’t been satisfying her? I’m not opposed to using toys, I guess, but what if she ends up liking them more than actual sex with me? And if I agree to bring toys into the bedroom, how should I use them so that they don’t become a substitute for well, you know, my cock?
Please help,
-Dude in Toyland

Dear Dude,
First off, you should feel very blessed to be in a relationship with a woman who feels comfortable enough to tell you what she wants sexually. It takes courage to ask for something that some might construe as kinky. Your girlfriend’s desire to incorporate toys into your sex play doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with your abilities as a lover. It might have more to do with how she pleases herself when she’s alone, or it might just be something that really tickles her fancy, errr, clit. If you can try to separate your ego from the situation you might find that bringing toys into the bedroom can be kinky and fun. But, I can understand why you might be taking her desire to use a dildo or vibrator personally. You want to feel as though your cock, fingers, and tongue are the end all and be all of sexual power over her clit. They very well could be, but maybe she just wants to mix shit up a little in the sack. My take on all things sexual is that it doesn’t hurt to try it once, unless you know that you don’t want to do something. If you try it, and you find that you absolutely hate using toys in the bedroom, then let her know how it makes you feel. I doubt that your girlfriend would want to do anything that bruises your ego, or makes you feel uncomfortable. Where would the fun be in that?

My suggestion for using toys in a way to enhance sex, and not replace your cock, is to start off small. Go online to www.babeland.com and buy a pocket rocket. They are these little, yet really powerful vibrators. The next time you are playing around with your lady, whip out the little guy and put it on, or near her clit. It will get her pretty excited. You can tease her with it by getting her worked up and then taking it away. When she’s good and ready, start to fuck her. While fucking her, either let her hold the vibrator on her clit, or you hold the vibrator on her clit (some women like to control the pressure). She will probably get off this way while you are inside her, and it will probably be pretty erotic for both of you.

Toys will probably never be able to take the place of your cock. Even when the sex toy companies try, that latex stuff never really feels quite like flesh. Plus, toys can’t whisper sweet nothings in your ear when you fuck them, at least I don’t think they can?
xxx
RevolvHER